Postnatal Anxiety — The Side of Motherhood No One Talks About
Motherhood is often described as magical, fulfilling, and instinctive. And while it can be those things, it can also be overwhelming, isolating — and anxiety-inducing.
If you've recently had a baby and feel on edge, panicky, or unable to switch off the worry, you're not alone. You might be experiencing postnatal anxiety, and it's far more common than people realise.
What is postnatal anxiety?
Postnatal anxiety is more than the typical worries that come with new parenthood. It can feel like:
- • Racing, intrusive thoughts
- • Constant "what ifs"
- • Difficulty sleeping (even when your baby is sleeping)
- • A sense of dread or panic, especially when separated from your baby
- • Feeling like something is always about to go wrong
Unlike postnatal depression, which tends to focus on low mood or disconnection, anxiety often shows up as hyper-alertness, restlessness, and fear.
Why no one talks about it
Many parents feel immense pressure to be "grateful" — to glow with happiness and bond instantly. But for those experiencing postnatal anxiety, the reality is very different.
Common thoughts may include:
- • "What's wrong with me?"
- • "Other parents seem to be coping."
- • "I'm scared I'm not a good mum."
This silence can deepen the shame — making people less likely to ask for support.
Therapy can help you find your footing again
You're not broken. Your nervous system is simply trying to protect you — it just may be stuck in overdrive.
In therapy, we work together to:
- • Understand your anxiety triggers
- • Gently challenge unhelpful thought patterns
- • Rebuild trust in yourself and your instincts
- • Create space for your own needs — not just your baby's
Parenting is hard enough. You don't have to do it alone.